From friends to lovers: getting the move right

                                                                           The journey from being friends to lovers is perhaps one of the most argued and lesser understood aspects of human relationships.

If handled without precaution, the results could be disastrous and you might lose a once-in-a-lifetime friend forever. This doesn’t mean that you cannot take such chances. You only need to have a more-than-reasonable idea to approach this tricky situation. Here, we will take you through the better way of ensuring that you can graduate from being friends to lovers with lesser complications.
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Establish Your Goal

The movie “Friends With Benefits” engaged a lot of attention since it presented a modern-day truth, i.e. today, friends are ready to be physically involved just for the sake of letting out that pent-up sexual energy. It is a form of mutual understanding where they are essentially just helping out each other having safe, consensual sex without being emotionally involved. This is regarded as an urban phenomenon. However, this might be the perception in your head only and not hers. Thus, you need to ensure that when you choose to take a step beyond friendship, she shares your viewpoint. She shouldn’t get the impression that you are proposing a one-night stand. Though that might work too, it could seriously jeopardize your friendship. The next point with help you understand deciphering her perception.

Do you need a self-check?

If you think that you need to do a self check regarding her place in your life as a lover or just another friend, take a week off from her presence. Make some excuse for not being available on the phone. In brief, exclude her from your life for an entire week. Now, judge in what manner you felt her absence. Was it the need of a friend, a lover or your mind was occupied by purely erotic thoughts about her? This will give you a ready clue regarding how you perceive her.

Search for Sure Signals that she is Interested

You need to be sure about the kind of signals she has been giving lately. If there has been a lot more than casual touching, naughty jokes being SMSed and she constantly asks about your sexual life or discloses how hers is a big bore, there is something suggestive. If it seems that she is elbowing you towards a relationship, seems to have that gazed look in her eyes and is extremely curious about your inclination towards other girls or any development in your romantic life, it is highly indicative that she is eyeing you as a boyfriend. If you two share a common pool of friends, take somebody into confidence who can get the inside dope on your friend’s increasing inclination towards you, i.e. is it still platonic or have you ignited something else in her mind?

Getting Realistic: There Is No Guarantee Since You Have Been Friends

Just because you two have known each other for a long time doesn’t guarantee that your first step towards romance has to be trouble-free. The reasons are simple—there are no guarantees in contemporary relationships. Even if you guys mutually agree upon a bedroom-centric relationship, please understand that your former equation as friends is going to help little once you guys are under the bed sheets. In fact, things could become a difficulty. Why? Being close friends, you two might have disclosed your sexual preferences or insecurities. Such kind of information might act as a deterrent when you two get cozy. Keep it simple and don’t expect too much. Where there are expectations, there is a greater chance to get disappointed. (Dating, MensXP.com)